A common question that I’m often asked is, “How do I train or disciple someone else effectively?” It’s a good question, and the answers to it can go in a variety of directions. However, one key tool has always stuck with me since I heard a pastor teach it at a conference years ago. I’m unsure of the original source, but I have assimilated it and adapted it to my own ministry, and I want to share it with you.
Here are five steps in developing and training others.
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I do. You watch. Let’s talk about it.
Everything starts with a relationship of you showing someone else personally how to do what you’re asking them to do, or training them to do. Ask them to watch, take notes, and learn how you accomplish the task. After a few days, catching up and talking about the observations is essential. Focus on three key questions: “What went well?” “What didn’t go well?” and “How can we improve it?” Keeping this conversation going is essential throughout the entire process.
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I do. You help. Let’s talk about it.
Next, the person can step in and help you with specific tasks. If they are learning to lead a team, you may assign them to start by handling the first couple of agenda items while you take care of the rest. Afterwards, you’ll sit down together to reflect on how things went, building on your previous conversations.
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You do. I help. Let’s talk about it.
Now it’s the person you’re training’s turn to take the lead and step out to do what you’ve taught them. Whether overseeing a team of greeters or leading a team meeting, they are in charge while getting your support. You’ll continue to meet regularly to discuss how it’s all developing and how you can help clarify any questions or hesitancies.
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You do. I watch. Let’s talk about it.
By now, the person you are developing is more confident and taking charge entirely. They will handle all leadership roles while you observe them in their decisions and competencies. It’s a perfect time for you to give feedback and cheer them on as they continue to flourish and grow.
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You do—someone new watches.
Finally, you step into the role of leader and start by helping someone else just as you were. Ideally, your leader will continue offering support from the sidelines, coaching you and your new disciple as needed.
