701. The Lead To Serve Podcast Season 7, Episode 1
As spiritual leaders, there’s no avoiding it. Accusations will come. It happens far more than any of us wants. Sometimes, they’re not too far off from the truth and bring needed correction. Other times, they’re false and deeply painful. In this season-opening episode of the Lead to Serve podcast, Pastor Bob Claycamp and I sat down to talk about how to handle criticism and false accusations with humility, faith, and wisdom. The conversation wasn’t just for pastors but for anyone serving others and leading in any capacity. Whether you’re in a church, at home, or at work, the challenges are real, and so is the hope that comes from God.
We discussed the importance of not reacting quickly. When we’re accused, our first instinct is often an emotional one. However, taking the time to pause, pray, and ask the Lord for clarity helps prevent further damage and invites His perspective. You don’t want to respond to false accusations in a sinful way. Remember, someone else’s sin against you doesn’t give you permission to sin against them. As Pastor Bob shared, defensiveness can often work against us and even validate the accusation in the eyes of others. When we slow down and process things before the Lord, we open the door to His healing, His truth, and His direction. Prayer and waiting on the Lord are crucial before responding.
We also touched on the importance of discernment. Sometimes, we’re told, “Never defend yourself,” but that’s not always biblical. Jesus was silent before His accusers, yes. Still, He also spoke plainly when needed (John 8:44). David cried out to God when falsely accused (Psalm 35), and Paul defended his integrity on multiple occasions. There’s a time to be quiet and a time to speak. Knowing the difference takes prayer, humility, and wise counsel.
One of the most powerful takeaways was the reminder that God never receives false accusations about us. He is the God of truth. Before reacting, we must first ask: Is there any truth in what’s being said? Am I being overly sensitive, or is this something I need to own before the Lord? This kind of honesty can be painful, but it’s also freeing. When we know we’re walking in integrity and surrounded by godly accountability, we can rest in the Lord—even when others misunderstand us.
Whether the criticism comes from within the church or outside of it, the key is to abide in Christ, drawing from His strength and spiritual resources. Let the truth be your protector. Let grace shape your response. Let humility guard your heart. And above all, let the Lord be your defender when the time is right. As we reminded our listeners, you don’t always have to speak, but you also don’t always have to stay silent. Let the Spirit lead you. And trust that God, who sees it all, will be faithful to guide you through.
You’ll learn a lot this season. Share these with others.
